On the Easy Pit To Fall Into
From Matt Bircher’s latest post on Birchtree:
One of the hard parts about sharing one’s opinions online like I do is that it’s very easy to fall into the trap of mostly complaining about things.
This is something I also think about. While I haven’t done anything scientific to know what my ratio of posting about things I like vs. things I don’t, I feel like I’m getting the balance better. It might still be weighted too much on writing about the negatives, but I am trying to write more about things I think are good.
I do wonder, though, why it’s so easy to write about things you hate. Matt has a few theories regarding the dynamics of social media, but I wonder if it more about someone’s personal experience of that thing in question. You hear about something that you’d thought would be worth a try. I doubt many people would actually try something they know they’re going to dislike. If that’s the case, they wouldn’t try it at1. So I’m guessing that there’s some expectation that you’ll like the thing.
So you start experience the thing, and maybe it all goes well at first. Then you encounter something you don’t like about it. You make a note of it and keep going, only to encounter another thing you don’t like, then another. You eventually get to the point where you’ve had enough, and you decided to write about it. And lo, you’ve got this list of paper-cuts that can be easily be used as arguments as to why the thing is no good.
Compare this to something that you do end up liking. You can probably come up with a list of things that are good about it, but you’re less likely to encounter them while you’re experiencing the thing. You just experience them, and it flows through you like water. When the time comes to write about it, you can recall liking the plot, or this character, etc., but they’re more nebulous and it takes effort to solidify them into a post. The drive to find the path of least resistance prevails, and you decided that it’s enough to just like it.
Anyway, this is just a hypothesis. I’m not a psychologist and I’ve done zero research to find out if any of this is accurate. In the end, this post might simply describe why my posting seems to be more weighted towards things I find annoying.